Someone asked me for a copy of my CV for reference a couple of days ago. In my eagerness to help out as soon and as best I could, I searched out mine and Y’s CVs (because I thought his might be better) and sent them right over. How did I find Y’s? Well, I found it the same way I did mine – through Gmail. His Gmail.
I’m usually fairly careful about not invading Y’s privacy even though we are married and all, but whether I was keen to, like I said, help out as soon as possible or simply forgot in the heat of the moment, I didn’t tell Y that I was logging on to his Gmail, searching out his CV and forwarding it on.
I knew he wouldn’t mind sharing with this person, and I guess I subconsciously figured it was okay. Anyway, I didn’t/forgot to tell him. Until this person thanked Y for it and he got all confused. And then he asked me. And then I realised.
Oops.
Maybe I shouldn’t have done that.
We’ve had this discussion with other married friends before. Is it okay for married couples to go into each other’s emails? I generally go through all Y’s physical mail because he doesn’t open anything and I take care of the bills, usually what they all are anyway. But email seems different somehow. More… private, as opposed to even SMSes which he has me check for him when the phone is out of reach and he’s too lazy to get up.
In fact, up until this year, I didn’t even know what his email password was. The only reason I finally knew was because I came up with the new one.
We have married friends who share email addresses and we have friends who access each other’s emails. Y isn’t for reading each other’s emails and actually, neither am I. Not for poking around purposes, anyway. But should spouses be given access? At what point does it become an invasion of privacy, even for married couples? Or, as some people might argue, is there no such thing?
Married or unmarried, an individual should always be given their own space. It doesn’t matter whether it is an email account, sms, football or whatever. WHY?
Because it makes sense in the following equation: S x Y = SY, Y x S = YS
therefore, SY = YS,
but S ≠ Y and Y ≠ S
MUAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
I love how lame and true it is afterall!
Agree. My Bf got mad when i opened his letter once, because it was laying on the table for ages, and we both knew what it was, but still he was mad. so i assume, married or unmarried, checking emails or opening lettes is an invasion of privacy unless he agrees for you to do so. ;)