According to the results of my little blogpoll, 8 out of 13 people think a guy is only ready to date when he can pay his own way. That is, of course, the “right” answer to give. But let’s face it. How many people you know wait until they’re financially independent before they start dating? I think I know exactly none. And how many guy friends or friends’ boyfriends do you know who are still dependent on their parents to pay the bills? Too many.
Personally, I think it should be when the guy understands safe sex. Whether or not he practises is not the issue. The issue is he should know what could happen and be responsible for his actions. But of course few would choose that answer. I mean, it has the word “sex” in it.
The question was taken from the board game “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”. It poses questions to the opposite sex whose answers you have to guess. Points are awarded for correct guesses. The aim is to see how well you understand men or women.
I played that game with Yuchun’s cell group once. Besides the fact that there were way too many people (so we could never agree on an answer), I got the distinct feeling people were trying to give the “correct” answers, as opposed of course to the “true” answers.
For example, this question was posed to a guy: Would you sleep with a woman if a) she turns you on; b) you like her; c) you love her?
We all know the morally correct answer. But let’s be honest. Men will sleep with anything that turns them on. Okay, most men. And the least likely answer is c). If they slept with only the women they loved, there would be nowhere near as much prostitution and adultery in this world.
So if you ever get the chance to play that game, try to be honest. It has the potential to be really fun.
And by the way, to the question on when men are ready to date, everyone thought I would say “when he can pay his own way” too. A few girls thought I would say “when he has his own set of wheels”. Nobody, including Yuchun, thought I would say “when he understands safe sex”. I definitely shocked the room. And I’m almost insulted that they thought I would pick the wheels.
