I was putting on a pair of jeans to go out for dinner earlier when Y commented, “I don’t like that pair of jeans.”
It was the second time in a week that we’d disagreed on an item of clothing. On Wednesday, I’d wanted to buy a necklace but Y hadn’t liked that one either. It was one of those long ones with a variety of charms at the end of it, but Y said it reminded him of an office lanyard, one of those with keys, thumb drive and name tag attached.
I know this is totally unfeminist of me and goes against everything I like to think I believe about women not seeking their validation from men, but I changed out of my jeans and I didn’t buy that necklace. As much as I sometimes struggle with it (should I really care what he thinks?), what Y thinks is important to me.
He doesn’t tell me not to buy something or not to wear something, but I know there’s a good chance I won’t wear something if he doesn’t like it – unless I’m not going out with him and I really, really like that something. I want him to think I look nice.
Someone once asked me would I get upset if my husband told me he didn’t like what I wearing. I said no, my husband already does that; besides, I’d much rather Y was honest with me at all times. He seemed really surprised. So apparently, other men don’t get to disagree with what their womenfolk wear. But I’m still thinking about getting one of those necklaces.
Would you:
a) Get upset if your boyfriend/husband didn’t like what you were wearing and told you so?
b) Buy something you know your boyfriend/husband doesn’t like?
c) Get upset if your boyfriend/husband said you looked fat?
d) Tell your girlfriend/wife that she looked fat or that you don’t like what she’s wearing?
Yah I’m the same with EG!
a) No, and I’ll wear it anyway and will feel good about it as a “So what?” response
b) Yes
c) A little, but then I’ll work it off and then gloat that he’s put on weight (haha)
haha very interesting, asking the questions with answers of the unknown and here I am thinking…I’m not sure :)
but one person once said, “I can see it in your eyes” haha *busted*
Soon Wei: Haha, busted alright. How have you been? You sound really swamped (on your blog).
a)No, i belive in myself more than him.
b)yes, well, i don’t usually think about that, i just buy whatever i like! i don’t care if he likes it or not as long as i feel happy and confident in what i’m wearing…haha
c)yes, absolutely
it matters actually, because it shows that you care about what he thinks but if it doesn’t come with a valid reason, then it does not matter.
“office lanyard, one of those with keys, thumb drive and name tag attached.”
that’s really ugly…. u got bad taste is it? MUAHAHAHAHAHA!
i have been ‘busting’my behind balancing life, and everything else that comes with it :) Yea, it’s been a few months of that but thankfully (really), things have started to slow down where some are kinda on auto where as new things come on board. its been quite a year :)